Create a Mental Movie to Achieve Your Goals
We all have something in life (or work) that we want to achieve.
Most of the time we don't know how to go about achieving these goals.
Often when we do know how to go about achieving them we just allow ourselves to fail by simply giving up.
Creating a mental movie can increase your chances of success as it is a creative and simple way to program your mind.
A mental movie is a creative visualization technique used by Neuro Linguistic Practitioners to help clients reprogram their mind to overcome fears or phobias, heal past traumas or to achieve work or life goals.
If you know the goal you want to achieve then you can take advantage of this powerful tool to help you create a successful outcome.
Step 1: Decide your goal.
It is essential that you can identify the goal you want to achieve. It must be precise. Write it down.
Step 2: Create a blueprint.
You know the end point; the goal. It is important that you create a blueprint describing the exact change you want to make. For it to be useful and generate a successful outcome it must:
• Use all five senses;
• Be very descriptive; and
• Be written in the present tense
For example, if your goal is to become more confident in social situations your blueprint might look like this:
I am at a party for a colleague's birthday. The room is brightly lit with music playing. There are red, blue, yellow and green balloons everywhere. I can hear people talking and laughing. I am standing in the centre of a group of colleagues talking about a movie. Everyone is listening. They are smiling at me and I feel happy. The beat of the music pulses through me making me feel invigorated. I feel comfortable talking and listening with others.
With every sip of my drink I feel stronger and more confident. Each bit of the delicious food makes me feel happier. I am smiling…
You can include different scenes, just like in a real movie. So change the situations to include any that are important in helping you to create the movie of the life you desire.
Step 3: Relax
It is important to relax as this is how you will get your subconscious mind to open up and be receptive to your mental movie.
Find somewhere comfortable. Close your eyes. Tense every muscle in your body and then release. Repeat twice more. Next, breathe in deeply through your nose to a count of five and out through your mouth to a count of eight. Repeat this three times or until you feel relaxed.
Step 4: Play your movie
This is where the mental programming takes place. You play your mental movie visualizing you living the goal you set. It is important that your movie is played as if you are living it now. Feel the emotions, experience the sights and sounds. Don't forget to include all your senses to make the experience feel real.
To make sure that your new mental program is fully installed you will need to repeat steps 3 and 4 every day for 30 days for best effect.
"Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve." - Napoleon Hill
This is a version of the SHiFTing method explored as part of the Dream Realisation Technique in the forthcoming book : The Secret to Your Future History.
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8 Harmful Lies You Tell Yourself
Lying to others is bad enough. Lying to yourself is the worst of all lies. The lies you tell yourself have an insidious purpose. You’re either trying to absolve yourself of responsibility or justifying inaction. The damage you do by lying to yourself is tremendous.
Avoid these lies and take control of your life:
1. There will be time in the future to do it. Do you want to do it or not? Often, we enjoy the idea of doing something, but lack the interest or determination to put it in time, work, or sacrifice to make it happen. Playing the guitar might sound like fun to you, but the idea of putting in hours of work to play at a mediocre level isn’t appealing.
• If you really want to do it, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find 1,000 reasons to put it off and procrastinate.
• Realize that you choose how you spend your time.
2. I can change another person. Think about how difficult it is to change yourself. Any change is extremely challenging, even when you’re highly motivated. Odds are that the person you want to change is less than enthusiastic. You have a losing battle on your hands.
• If it’s vital that the other person change, you’d be better off finding another person to fulfill the role.
3. I’m not like anyone else / there’s something wrong with me. Everyone believes they’re different from others. You are certainly unique, but you’re remarkably similar to the average person. You’re not deficient or flawed.
• This type of thinking serves as an excuse to play the victim and remain small.
4. It will get better or go away if I just ignore it. Things tend to get worse if ignored. Unless you have a magical fairy taking care of business for you, you’ll have to deal with the challenges of life directly. Otherwise, you’ll find your challenges grow and multiply.
5. I’m too young / I’m too old. It’s true that you won’t be a CEO at 3-years of age or start medical school at 106. However, age is much less limiting than you believe. The young and old have accomplished incredible things. You can too.
6. I don’t have any other choice. You have more choices than you could possibly realize. Your habitual actions and thoughts are limiting. Open your mind to all the possibilities. There are always other choices. Brainstorm with a creative friend and investigate your other options.
7. I don’t want to make a fool out of myself. Like most of us, you’re probably far too inhibited. You’re not a teenager anymore. It’s time to let go of the fear of others’ opinions.
• An exciting life is boldly lived. When you’re bold, you’re going to receive some negative feedback. When you’re timid though, you’ll still receive negative comments. You’ll be criticized no matter what you do, so do what’s best for you.
• Remember that 99% of the time, no one really cares. Everyone is too absorbed with their own issues.
8. It’s too late. This is similar to “I’m too old.” Starting a business might have been more convenient before you got married and had children, but it’s still a possibility. The idea that it’s too late is just another excuse to justify staying where you are, comfortable in your own misery.
By lying, you take the responsibility off of your shoulders and redistribute it. You lie to yourself in order to protect yourself from possible failure. But lying to yourself ensures that you’ll stay stuck. Start being honest with yourself and face life head-on.
You’ll be glad you did!
Make Life an Adventure Not a Challenge
The Flaw of Comparing Yourself to Others
If you’re lacking contentment, it could be because you’re comparing yourself to others. You’ve been on Facebook and seen the pictures of others living their seemingly exciting lives. It only takes a moment to find yourself wishing you had someone else’s career, body, house, or vacation.
Comparing ourselves to others is a common activity!
But there’s a critical flaw in this mental exercise.
You simply don’t have all the information. Someone might have a great body, but they might be seriously ill. That great vacation might have been paid for with an inheritance after a family member passed away.
A smarter strategy is to compare yourself to your own recent past.
How is your figure compared to 6 months ago?
How are your finances compared to last year?
If you’re making progress, congratulate yourself.
If your life isn’t moving forward, then take pause and address the situation.
Theodore Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”
Think about that statement and decide if it rings true for you.
Try these tips to free yourself from unnecessary comparisons:
1. Catch yourself early in the process. As soon as you realize that you’re making comparisons to others, shift your focus to something else.
• You can control your thoughts, so use that ability to your advantage.
2. Remember that the journey is what matters. Everyone is on a journey to learn, create, and become something unique. It’s an individual experience that isn’t impacted by what others are doing or accomplishing.
3. Comparing yourself to others is a game that can’t be won. There are a lot of people in the world. Through sheer statistics, there will always be someone with a more attractive spouse, more money, a better car, or a more interesting life.
• There’s no way to compete with 8 billion people in every facet of life.
4. Look to your strengths. Comparisons tend to focus on our weaknesses. We usually compare our shortcomings against others. Embrace your strengths and be proud. Now use those strengths to your advantage.
5. List the things you have. Comparisons highlight the things we lack. It’s much more productive to think about the things you do have. Your mood and frame of mind will be more positive, and you’ll be in a better position to compete and succeed.
6. People only let you see the things that want you to see. Sure, they’ll let you see their new BMW and the vacation pictures from Maui. But you’ll never see the tears and fights in the bedroom, or the verbal abuse they take from their mother-in-law. Keep in mind that social media is primarily used for showing the good, rather than telling the bad.
7. It’s just a habit. Our lives are filled with habits, and some of them are harmful. Poor mental habits are restrictive. It’s like going through life with the emergency brake on.
• Labeling the tendency to compare as a habit has a powerful advantage because we know that habits can be broken.
Comparing yourself to others is limiting and self-defeating. No one can be expected to compare favourably to the vast number of people in the world.
Make an effort to limit your comparisons to your own recent past.
Are you making progress or backsliding?
If you continue to enhance the areas that are important to you, your life is likely to be fulfilling and exciting
Every now and then, you may ponder the complexities and maybe even some chaos in your life.
You might struggle to figure out what's next.
Maybe you feel confused at times about which way to go.
Have you thought about setting your life priorities to make your life easier?
When you're struggling to determine what's important to you, it's hard to make decisions.
What will you do next?
Where will you go for the evening?
Who will you choose to pass the time with?
Feeling torn between two or more people, places and things is common if you haven't yet identified your priorities. After all, when you consider everything and everyone in your life as all-equal in terms of their "level" of importance, it's going to be tough to choose what to do next.
Setting your life priorities is a way of identifying what's most important to you. Once you determine your priorities, you'll be pleased with the ease of making decisions and the serenity that comes with knowing you did the right thing.
Establishing priorities also gives you a clearer focus on how to allot your time. If you allot the bulk of your time to doing what's most important with the most important people in your life, you'll feel more fulfilled and satisfied with your life experiences.
Common Life Priorities
What might your priorities be?
The possibilities are endless. In the list below, you'll find many common priorities in no particular order.
Feel free to use the list as inspiration to help you figure out your own priorities.
* Extended family
* Personal appearance
* Health and physical exercise/activities
* Nutritious eating
* "Alone-time" with partner
* Quality time with the children
* Playing games on the internet
* Talking on the phone
* Watching television
Example of a "Prioritized" Listing of Life Priorities
The whole idea of setting priorities is to put the many elements of your life into an order, with those that are most important to you at the top.
Knowing your highest priority on the list is necessary in order to make focused, wise decisions that are right for you.
Consider this next list, which is prioritized, as an example of someone's life priorities (in order).
2. Alone-time with partner
4. Health and physical exercise
5. Nutritious eating
7. Watching television
8. Personal appearance
9. Hobbies - movies and reading
Coming Up With Your Own Priorities
Setting your priorities in life may take time and effort. However, taking the time to reflect on your day-to-day life and determine what's on the top of your list will make your life so much easier. Once your priorities are clear to you, decisions on how to spend your time and with who will be a cinch.
Engaging in this exercise of figuring out your priorities might reveal some things that shock or surprise you.
For example, you might realize that you're spending most of your time hanging out with friends even though you feel that your family is more important. Or you aren't taking as much care with your kids as you thought you were.
Regardless of what you discover that you weren't expecting, setting your priorities now will help you limit or even remove the less-important elements of your life and enable you to focus more fully on what means the most to you.
You can live more joyfully by setting your life priorities.
Knowing what's important to you and devoting your time to those things at the top of your list will ensure you experience an enriched and fulfilled life.
Set your life priorities today.
Even if loving yourself isn’t frequently on your mind, you’ll benefit enormously from recognizing the impact that accepting and caring for yourself can have on your everyday life and relationships.
Practice self-love every single day. If you do, you’ll prosper and come closer to achieving the life you truly deserve. To cultivate self-love, start with these tips and see how you can expand them to suit your own life.
1. Your Physical Self: Looking After Your Body
‣ Take more time with your appearance.
‣ Make a change today.
‣ Put energy into yourself.
‣ Notice your physical “positives.”
‣ Sleep more.
‣ Brighten up.
‣ Ask yourself what your body requires.
‣ Consistently focus on your physical self.
‣ Acknowledge all that your body does for you.
‣ Show commitment to loving yourself.
2. Your Intellectual Self: Feeding Your Mind
‣ Do something you’ve longed to do.
‣ Write down your life priorities.
‣ Foster your passions and dreams.
‣ Ensure you’ve got a real life with real people.
‣ Stop doing something just because “it’s always been this way.”
‣ Take a personal inventory of your life.
‣ Consider the bigger picture.
‣ Tell yourself you deserve it.
‣ Find your inner power.
3. Your Emotional Self: Understanding and Respecting Your Feelings
‣ Accept yourself as you are.
‣ Claim responsibility for your own life.
‣ Avoid negativity toward yourself.
‣ Forgive others.
‣ Send out positive vibes to other people.
‣ Say you’re sorry if you are.
‣ Let go of any negative feelings you may carry toward others.
‣ Cultivate self-respect.
4. Your Spiritual Self: Caring for Your Soul
‣ Make each morning a good morning.
‣ Change your personal space.
‣ Turn on the tunes.
‣ Turn off the gadgets.
‣ Allow yourself to feel love from others.
‣ Immerse in nature.
‣ Be adventurous.
‣ Recognize that time is of the essence.
When you devote even a little time and energy to accepting and loving yourself, your life will be enriched. Connections with others will be stronger. And you’ll be more apt to achieve your dreams.
Love yourself in some way each day to keep your passion flowing and accomplish your greatest desires!
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Dr Alan B JOnes
Director Inspire NLP