Creating a Better Mood
Is it possible to create a better mood for yourself?
Can you do it for others?
If it is possible, why isn't everyone always happy?
It seems being happy is preferable to being in a bad mood.
Studies have shown it is possible to improve your mood. It can be as simple as thinking you're in a good mood. If you believe it, your attitude will change. In fact, even when you aren't in a good mood, the simple act of smiling can perk you up.
One reason why people don't improve their mood more often is that they don't know they can. From early childhood, we understand that we have different feelings. Sometimes we will be in a good mood and other times we won't. Parents and teachers told us it's just the way it is.
If you want to better your mood, start hanging out with upbeat people. There's nothing like a sourpuss to bring down a group. These cranky people seem to go out of their way to make sure everyone is miserable. By avoiding these people, you have less chance of being in a bad mood at the start.
Next, create an environment for yourself that lifts your spirits. If a certain type of music gets you pumped, play that music more often. Some people like to burn incense as they feel it can positively alter their moods.
You should reflect on your life and be grateful for what you have. You have a lot to be thankful for if you're in good health. If your family is in good health, you should also be grateful. Your mood will naturally increase towards the positive when you appreciate such things.
Try not to worry about the mundane issues in your life. They are going to happen whether you worry or not. Just take care of them so that they aren't hanging over your head. Don't let things build to the point that they become a major matter.
It may seem obvious, but do more things that make you happy and less that don't. It's not always possible to avoid adverse situations, but you do have control over most of the activities in your life.
Sometimes, all that is needed is to change up your routine. If you are doing the same activities day in and day out, this can make anyone feel in a bad mood. Try stepping up your game and do something out of the ordinary. In fact, make it a point to do this once every month.
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Create a Mental Movie to Achieve Your Goals
We all have something in life (or work) that we want to achieve.
Most of the time we don't know how to go about achieving these goals.
Often when we do know how to go about achieving them we just allow ourselves to fail by simply giving up.
Creating a mental movie can increase your chances of success as it is a creative and simple way to program your mind.
A mental movie is a creative visualization technique used by Neuro Linguistic Practitioners to help clients reprogram their mind to overcome fears or phobias, heal past traumas or to achieve work or life goals.
If you know the goal you want to achieve then you can take advantage of this powerful tool to help you create a successful outcome.
Step 1: Decide your goal.
It is essential that you can identify the goal you want to achieve. It must be precise. Write it down.
Step 2: Create a blueprint.
You know the end point; the goal. It is important that you create a blueprint describing the exact change you want to make. For it to be useful and generate a successful outcome it must:
• Use all five senses;
• Be very descriptive; and
• Be written in the present tense
For example, if your goal is to become more confident in social situations your blueprint might look like this:
I am at a party for a colleague's birthday. The room is brightly lit with music playing. There are red, blue, yellow and green balloons everywhere. I can hear people talking and laughing. I am standing in the centre of a group of colleagues talking about a movie. Everyone is listening. They are smiling at me and I feel happy. The beat of the music pulses through me making me feel invigorated. I feel comfortable talking and listening with others.
With every sip of my drink I feel stronger and more confident. Each bit of the delicious food makes me feel happier. I am smiling…
You can include different scenes, just like in a real movie. So change the situations to include any that are important in helping you to create the movie of the life you desire.
Step 3: Relax
It is important to relax as this is how you will get your subconscious mind to open up and be receptive to your mental movie.
Find somewhere comfortable. Close your eyes. Tense every muscle in your body and then release. Repeat twice more. Next, breathe in deeply through your nose to a count of five and out through your mouth to a count of eight. Repeat this three times or until you feel relaxed.
Step 4: Play your movie
This is where the mental programming takes place. You play your mental movie visualizing you living the goal you set. It is important that your movie is played as if you are living it now. Feel the emotions, experience the sights and sounds. Don't forget to include all your senses to make the experience feel real.
To make sure that your new mental program is fully installed you will need to repeat steps 3 and 4 every day for 30 days for best effect.
"Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve." - Napoleon Hill
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8 Harmful Lies You Tell Yourself
Lying to others is bad enough. Lying to yourself is the worst of all lies. The lies you tell yourself have an insidious purpose. You’re either trying to absolve yourself of responsibility or justifying inaction. The damage you do by lying to yourself is tremendous.
Avoid these lies and take control of your life:
1. There will be time in the future to do it. Do you want to do it or not? Often, we enjoy the idea of doing something, but lack the interest or determination to put it in time, work, or sacrifice to make it happen. Playing the guitar might sound like fun to you, but the idea of putting in hours of work to play at a mediocre level isn’t appealing.
• If you really want to do it, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find 1,000 reasons to put it off and procrastinate.
• Realize that you choose how you spend your time.
2. I can change another person. Think about how difficult it is to change yourself. Any change is extremely challenging, even when you’re highly motivated. Odds are that the person you want to change is less than enthusiastic. You have a losing battle on your hands.
• If it’s vital that the other person change, you’d be better off finding another person to fulfill the role.
3. I’m not like anyone else / there’s something wrong with me. Everyone believes they’re different from others. You are certainly unique, but you’re remarkably similar to the average person. You’re not deficient or flawed.
• This type of thinking serves as an excuse to play the victim and remain small.
4. It will get better or go away if I just ignore it. Things tend to get worse if ignored. Unless you have a magical fairy taking care of business for you, you’ll have to deal with the challenges of life directly. Otherwise, you’ll find your challenges grow and multiply.
5. I’m too young / I’m too old. It’s true that you won’t be a CEO at 3-years of age or start medical school at 106. However, age is much less limiting than you believe. The young and old have accomplished incredible things. You can too.
6. I don’t have any other choice. You have more choices than you could possibly realize. Your habitual actions and thoughts are limiting. Open your mind to all the possibilities. There are always other choices. Brainstorm with a creative friend and investigate your other options.
7. I don’t want to make a fool out of myself. Like most of us, you’re probably far too inhibited. You’re not a teenager anymore. It’s time to let go of the fear of others’ opinions.
• An exciting life is boldly lived. When you’re bold, you’re going to receive some negative feedback. When you’re timid though, you’ll still receive negative comments. You’ll be criticized no matter what you do, so do what’s best for you.
• Remember that 99% of the time, no one really cares. Everyone is too absorbed with their own issues.
8. It’s too late. This is similar to “I’m too old.” Starting a business might have been more convenient before you got married and had children, but it’s still a possibility. The idea that it’s too late is just another excuse to justify staying where you are, comfortable in your own misery.
By lying, you take the responsibility off of your shoulders and redistribute it. You lie to yourself in order to protect yourself from possible failure. But lying to yourself ensures that you’ll stay stuck. Start being honest with yourself and face life head-on.
You’ll be glad you did!
Make Life an Adventure Not a Challenge
Dr Alan B Jones
Director Inspire NLP
Coach, Trainer, Author