Create a Mental Movie to Achieve Your Goals
We all have something in life (or work) that we want to achieve.
Most of the time we don't know how to go about achieving these goals.
Often when we do know how to go about achieving them we just allow ourselves to fail by simply giving up.
Creating a mental movie can increase your chances of success as it is a creative and simple way to program your mind.
A mental movie is a creative visualization technique used by Neuro Linguistic Practitioners to help clients reprogram their mind to overcome fears or phobias, heal past traumas or to achieve work or life goals.
If you know the goal you want to achieve then you can take advantage of this powerful tool to help you create a successful outcome.
Step 1: Decide your goal.
It is essential that you can identify the goal you want to achieve. It must be precise. Write it down.
Step 2: Create a blueprint.
You know the end point; the goal. It is important that you create a blueprint describing the exact change you want to make. For it to be useful and generate a successful outcome it must:
• Use all five senses;
• Be very descriptive; and
• Be written in the present tense
For example, if your goal is to become more confident in social situations your blueprint might look like this:
I am at a party for a colleague's birthday. The room is brightly lit with music playing. There are red, blue, yellow and green balloons everywhere. I can hear people talking and laughing. I am standing in the centre of a group of colleagues talking about a movie. Everyone is listening. They are smiling at me and I feel happy. The beat of the music pulses through me making me feel invigorated. I feel comfortable talking and listening with others.
With every sip of my drink I feel stronger and more confident. Each bit of the delicious food makes me feel happier. I am smiling…
You can include different scenes, just like in a real movie. So change the situations to include any that are important in helping you to create the movie of the life you desire.
Step 3: Relax
It is important to relax as this is how you will get your subconscious mind to open up and be receptive to your mental movie.
Find somewhere comfortable. Close your eyes. Tense every muscle in your body and then release. Repeat twice more. Next, breathe in deeply through your nose to a count of five and out through your mouth to a count of eight. Repeat this three times or until you feel relaxed.
Step 4: Play your movie
This is where the mental programming takes place. You play your mental movie visualizing you living the goal you set. It is important that your movie is played as if you are living it now. Feel the emotions, experience the sights and sounds. Don't forget to include all your senses to make the experience feel real.
To make sure that your new mental program is fully installed you will need to repeat steps 3 and 4 every day for 30 days for best effect.
"Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve." - Napoleon Hill
This is a version of the SHiFTing method explored as part of the Dream Realisation Technique in the forthcoming book : The Secret to Your Future History.
This book due to be released Spring 2018 is a complete exploration of personal development through psychologically supported techniques.
Join the closed Facebook group to ensure you are kept informed of publication dates and materials to support the approaches in the book.
FACEBOOK GROUP : Your Future History
8 Harmful Lies You Tell Yourself
Lying to others is bad enough. Lying to yourself is the worst of all lies. The lies you tell yourself have an insidious purpose. You’re either trying to absolve yourself of responsibility or justifying inaction. The damage you do by lying to yourself is tremendous.
Avoid these lies and take control of your life:
1. There will be time in the future to do it. Do you want to do it or not? Often, we enjoy the idea of doing something, but lack the interest or determination to put it in time, work, or sacrifice to make it happen. Playing the guitar might sound like fun to you, but the idea of putting in hours of work to play at a mediocre level isn’t appealing.
• If you really want to do it, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find 1,000 reasons to put it off and procrastinate.
• Realize that you choose how you spend your time.
2. I can change another person. Think about how difficult it is to change yourself. Any change is extremely challenging, even when you’re highly motivated. Odds are that the person you want to change is less than enthusiastic. You have a losing battle on your hands.
• If it’s vital that the other person change, you’d be better off finding another person to fulfill the role.
3. I’m not like anyone else / there’s something wrong with me. Everyone believes they’re different from others. You are certainly unique, but you’re remarkably similar to the average person. You’re not deficient or flawed.
• This type of thinking serves as an excuse to play the victim and remain small.
4. It will get better or go away if I just ignore it. Things tend to get worse if ignored. Unless you have a magical fairy taking care of business for you, you’ll have to deal with the challenges of life directly. Otherwise, you’ll find your challenges grow and multiply.
5. I’m too young / I’m too old. It’s true that you won’t be a CEO at 3-years of age or start medical school at 106. However, age is much less limiting than you believe. The young and old have accomplished incredible things. You can too.
6. I don’t have any other choice. You have more choices than you could possibly realize. Your habitual actions and thoughts are limiting. Open your mind to all the possibilities. There are always other choices. Brainstorm with a creative friend and investigate your other options.
7. I don’t want to make a fool out of myself. Like most of us, you’re probably far too inhibited. You’re not a teenager anymore. It’s time to let go of the fear of others’ opinions.
• An exciting life is boldly lived. When you’re bold, you’re going to receive some negative feedback. When you’re timid though, you’ll still receive negative comments. You’ll be criticized no matter what you do, so do what’s best for you.
• Remember that 99% of the time, no one really cares. Everyone is too absorbed with their own issues.
8. It’s too late. This is similar to “I’m too old.” Starting a business might have been more convenient before you got married and had children, but it’s still a possibility. The idea that it’s too late is just another excuse to justify staying where you are, comfortable in your own misery.
By lying, you take the responsibility off of your shoulders and redistribute it. You lie to yourself in order to protect yourself from possible failure. But lying to yourself ensures that you’ll stay stuck. Start being honest with yourself and face life head-on.
You’ll be glad you did!
Make Life an Adventure Not a Challenge
Self-Belief: 7 Tips to Get Your Mind on Your Side
Self-belief isn't optional. It's vital. Think of all the things you haven't accomplished or tried because you didn't have enough belief in yourself. Self-doubt will always creep in at times. That's why it's so important to have an excess of belief in yourself.
Create a reserve of self-belief and you really can accomplish nearly anything you can imagine. What would you do if you believed you could do essentially anything? How would your life be different? How would you feel?
If you need a little more faith in yourself, read on:
1. Examine your beliefs. You weren't born with any limiting beliefs. You learned every single one of them. We all learn to limit ourselves unfairly. Give yourself the credit you deserve.
* Think about the limiting beliefs you already have. Do what you can to discard them. Ask yourself if this limiting belief is really legitimate. Where did it come from? What evidence do you have that it simply isn't true?
2. Give yourself an unlimited number of opportunities to be successful. It's easy to be filled with doubt if you think you only have once chance to get it right. Give yourself permission to "fail" as many times as necessary. Learn something from each attempt. This is a great way to build self-belief.
3. Eliminate self-criticism. As soon as self-doubt starts to invade your thoughts, ask yourself where that inner critic is coming from.
* Are you channeling a negative experience from the past?
* Is the source of this criticism credible? It rarely is.
* It can be challenging to quiet your mind, but that doesn't mean you have to let it drag you down. Focus on positive self-talk.
4. Trust and love yourself. For one month, try being your best friend instead of your worst enemy. How do you treat your best friend or your children? Probably a lot better than you treat yourself. Give yourself the gift of kindness.
5. Coach yourself. Everyone needs a little support and encouragement. So when you find yourself struggling, consider what you would say to someone that you really believed in if they were feeling the same way you are. When self-doubt starts to creep in, take a few minutes to coach yourself.
6. Think about how you would like to act. Think about how you would think and behave if you were full of self-confidence.
* You can effectively borrow traits from others, too. Who are some of your heroes? Sometimes it easier to imagine others dealing with a situation than to imagine ourselves. See yourself acting the way your hero would act.
7. Remember all your past victories. We've all accomplished some pretty impressive things, but we're quick to forget them. Grab a pen and some paper and list all the successes you've experienced in life, no matter how great or small.
* If you need help, ask a trusted friend or family member. You might be surprised at what you hear.
Self-belief isn't about becoming arrogant or turning a blind-eye to one's flaws. The belief you have in yourself needs to be focused on what you wish to become.
You can have weaknesses.
Everyone does. But there is value in being relaxed about your weaknesses and working to strengthen them.
A strong belief in yourself is a sure ticket to reaching great success.
Build your self-belief and seemingly impossible tasks can become routine.
An interesting phrase 'Self Improvement" ...
What 'self' is being improved and why??
I guess it can mean being a better person, learning something new, accomplishing more, or simply figuring out how to better enjoy the life you have.
I saw a post on Facebook which announced something along the lines of "I need a change in my life soon because I'm sick and tired of this same old routine every day"
Who of us hasn't felt something like that at some time or another?
I suppose the first thing to do is work out what are we 'sick' about - the routine itself; the demands that routine is making on our lives?
The next thing to consider is, perhaps.how much of that routine is the result of choice and how much is beyond your scope of control?
If we're really honest with ourselves there will be much of "the routine that makes us sick' is because of choices we either made or did not make at some point in our past.
We work and need to bring in money, to pay the bills for things we have chosen to 'have' at some point in the past.
We believe we have no other choices in how we can pay those bills, and we can't immediately unchoose the house, family, the lifestyle we aspired too - so we are 'trapped' in a life we have, at some point, decided is less than what we want now.
Perhaps taking responsibility for the reality of past choices, and being specific about what we want is the first step into 'self-improvement'.
Of course, there are things which affect our lives that are genuinely beyond our control and influence - and perhaps we need to consider how we can view these differently and stop beating our heads against the walls that we haven't built.
If life is shit, consider what you can do to change it ... kinds simple I guess.
Here's an interesting set of "measures for personal development" that might help focus your thoughts...
Each one of these dimensions is something we can do something about ...
Think in terms of improving (or developing) some of these dimensions...
Intellectual - study, developing thinking skills, or otherwise improving the mind.
Physical - becoming stronger, faster, fitter - developing stamina
Acquiring Talents - unlike the previous two items, which are relatively general, talents might have both a mental and physical component but are really about doing a distinctive thing. Learning how to juggle, for instance, or playing an instrument, or learning an art or craft.
Organizational - cleaning, decluttering, time management - develop systems and processes to organise yourself
Interpersonal - connecting. Improving the quality of relationships, from the most casual of co-workers to the most significant of others.
Experiential - seeking out new sensations and experiences. This could be as involved as international travel, or as simple as savouring a pleasant aroma.
Removal - getting rid of bad habits, or reducing negative effects on your life. Clearing the physical, emotional and spiritual clutter.
These are based on the 7th Paths to Self Development by Aaron Rath
What would happen if you gave yourself score out of ten for each of these dimensions (10 meaning that you'd totally 'cracked' that facet of your life)?
Would such an assessment help you consider how you could bring about change?
One of the core presuppositions within NLP is that 'all of the resources we need are inherent in our own physiology' and, on one level this idea can raise the question as to why anyone might seek the support of a coach - life, work or otherwise.
But the key here is that we may not recognise those resources and abilities we have.
Often we are too close to our own stuff to see our way through; we are in the forests of our lives and can't see the trees.
Coaching is a process as well as a tool.
Most of the world's most successful people – from athletes to business people – have coaches and they engage others to help them in a number of ways.
1) To Find Direction - we can drift through life without much of a plan, not really knowing where we're heading. A coach can change all of that by helping you really focus and figure out your purpose, vocation or goal. - and then work with you to set out a step by step plan of action.
2) Doing Things More Effectively - a coach can help you get serious about the success you deserve to have, and motivate you to use the what you have in the most effective way. They can encourage you to identify the skills you have and identify areas for improvement
3) To be your 'Accountability Partner' -we can be our own worst enemies when it comes to making excuses and putting things off, a coach can help deal with procrastination. When we're only answerable to ourselves, it's too easy to say "I'll do it tomorrow" – and we all know tomorrow never comes! A coach is there to a kind of conscience, providing a supportive nudge in the right direction and sometimes demanding answers when we let ourselves down.
4) From A - B with out a detour through C.D & E - a coach can save you the stress of having to figure all out everything on your own. The benefit of your coach's knowledge and experience, plus the step-by-step plan they can help you to build, can help you gain a real edge in terms of personal and professional development
5) To be a motivator - if we've been moving along on our own for a while, it's easy to become demotivated and lose confidence in our own abilities. A couch will help you re-focus on your successes, plans and possibilities.
6) To notice blind spots - we can all be guilty of ignoring our own faults, and more interestingly not spotting those patterns which cause us to falter. A coach will help identify those blocks and 'invisible' sabotage tactics that we have developed for ourselves.
In short a Coach has a professional view of your personal and professional success. They work with you to create plans; refine behaviours and shape attitudes which allow you to achieve those things YOU define as being goals and targets.
It's interesting how people may not have a problem in hiring a 'trainer' to help them get 'into better physical shape' but will question paying for a business or personal 'coach' to help them in other areas of their life. The truth of the matter is that almost every successful individual; every high-performer, has worked with a mentor or a coach for part (or possibly) most of their journey.
Dr Alan B JOnes
Director Inspire NLP