Create a Mental Movie to Achieve Your Goals
We all have something in life (or work) that we want to achieve.
Most of the time we don't know how to go about achieving these goals.
Often when we do know how to go about achieving them we just allow ourselves to fail by simply giving up.
Creating a mental movie can increase your chances of success as it is a creative and simple way to program your mind.
A mental movie is a creative visualization technique used by Neuro Linguistic Practitioners to help clients reprogram their mind to overcome fears or phobias, heal past traumas or to achieve work or life goals.
If you know the goal you want to achieve then you can take advantage of this powerful tool to help you create a successful outcome.
Step 1: Decide your goal.
It is essential that you can identify the goal you want to achieve. It must be precise. Write it down.
Step 2: Create a blueprint.
You know the end point; the goal. It is important that you create a blueprint describing the exact change you want to make. For it to be useful and generate a successful outcome it must:
• Use all five senses;
• Be very descriptive; and
• Be written in the present tense
For example, if your goal is to become more confident in social situations your blueprint might look like this:
I am at a party for a colleague's birthday. The room is brightly lit with music playing. There are red, blue, yellow and green balloons everywhere. I can hear people talking and laughing. I am standing in the centre of a group of colleagues talking about a movie. Everyone is listening. They are smiling at me and I feel happy. The beat of the music pulses through me making me feel invigorated. I feel comfortable talking and listening with others.
With every sip of my drink I feel stronger and more confident. Each bit of the delicious food makes me feel happier. I am smiling…
You can include different scenes, just like in a real movie. So change the situations to include any that are important in helping you to create the movie of the life you desire.
Step 3: Relax
It is important to relax as this is how you will get your subconscious mind to open up and be receptive to your mental movie.
Find somewhere comfortable. Close your eyes. Tense every muscle in your body and then release. Repeat twice more. Next, breathe in deeply through your nose to a count of five and out through your mouth to a count of eight. Repeat this three times or until you feel relaxed.
Step 4: Play your movie
This is where the mental programming takes place. You play your mental movie visualizing you living the goal you set. It is important that your movie is played as if you are living it now. Feel the emotions, experience the sights and sounds. Don't forget to include all your senses to make the experience feel real.
To make sure that your new mental program is fully installed you will need to repeat steps 3 and 4 every day for 30 days for best effect.
"Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve." - Napoleon Hill
This is a version of the SHiFTing method explored as part of the Dream Realisation Technique in the forthcoming book : The Secret to Your Future History.
This book due to be released Spring 2018 is a complete exploration of personal development through psychologically supported techniques.
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Positive Thinking - The Problems
A quick look beyond the covers of any self-help book and you will find the same, possibly dangerous, rhetoric of positive thinking.\
You have a really bad day at work - just think positively...
Your relationship ends terribly - just think positively, there is a silver lining...
Superficially subscribers to what is termed Positive Thinking , tend to be endorsing an attitude to lief in which 'the darker side' is repressed, or given short shrift. Indeed any philosophical approach in which personal realities are polished or shrouded may contain a problem.
Put more directly, if you focus on only the positive aspects of your life, then you are in danger of discounting (repressing) other parts of you life.
In short you are creating a fluffy reality - one in which the gulf between what you are feeling and you are allowing yourself to feel grows.
Jung spoke of the idea of our shadow and maintained that enlightenment was not about finding the light, but shining the light into the darkness.
In terms of our ability to 'bounce' back from difficulties, our emotional resilience, denying the light in the shadow and the shadow in the light does not the 'skill' of 'bouncing back' to be practised or developed.
No I am not for one minute saying that we should adopt morose attitude to life, what I am saying is that there needs to be a desire to 'walk in balance'. It's as ok to 'sad' as it is to be 'happy' as long as you 'own' those feelings as yours. Such ownership can encourage deeper and more relevant personal development.
Again to put another spin on things...
If you refuse to see the pain, does not mean that the pain ceases to exist.
I may not like the darkness, and I may prefer to stay in the light, but simply thinking about the light does not mean we actually have 24 hours of sunlight.
The challenge is about exploring the causes (attachments to) of sadness as well the causes (attachments to) happiness. In a forthcoming book I explore the idea of happiness in a bit more detail, but for now its worth your consideration to question 'what happiness means to me?'
Stoic philosophers maintained that any event is just an event. It is the meaning that we attach to each event which gives it its importance.
To be mindlessly happy despite the intensity of any event is to fail to explore the real attachments you place upon it.
In a spiritual sense, such denial does make personal enlightenment a bit of a challenge.
A Walk in the Woods
A Walk In The Woods Test – Relational Psychology Test
Following on with the them of personality tests ...
This is what they call a relational psychology test.
The answers to these questions indicate relevance to values that you hold in your personal life.
Have a piece of paper and a pen to hand - and as ever remember the caveat; treat this as a source of personal reflection and not as any kind of diagnosis.
As you read the description answer the questions as they appear; do not read ahead.
Picture yourself walking through a beautiful forest.
The sun is out, there's a perfect breeze.
It's just beautiful.
Who are you walking with?
As you continue on in your walk through the forest, you come across an animal.
What kind of animal is it?
You walk up to the animal.
What does the animal do?
You're walking deeper into the woods yet, and you come to a clearing. There's a house in the middle of the clearing.
How big is it?
Is it fenced in or no?
You walk up to the door of the home and it's open a bit.
You enter and see a table.
Describe what's on the table.
You finish looking around the house and leave out the back door.
There's a huge lawn and in the centre is a garden. In the garden, you find a cup.
What is the cup made out of?
What do you do with the cup?
As you walk to the end of the garden, you find yourself at a body of water.
What kind of body of water is it? A lake? River? Pond?
You must cross this water in order to get home.
How wet do you get?
So now for some possible interpretations ...
The person you were walking with is the most important person in your life.
The size of the animal you come across is a representation of the size of your problems.
If your action was more severe, it means you tend to be more aggressive.
If it was peaceful, then more passive.
The size of your home is representative of the size of your ambition.
If there was no fence around the home, it means you tend to be more open.
If what you saw on the table wasn't food, people, or flowers, it indicates some possible unhappiness.
How durable the cup you found was is representative of how strong your relationship is with the person in the first part of the story.
What you do with it is representative of your attitude toward them.
The size of the body of water is related to the size of your sexual drive.
If you became very wet, it indicates that sex is important to you.
If not very wet, it may mean it's less important.
I came across this on The Learning Mind and thought it was very interesting.
Like all of these visualisation approaches it relies on the hypotheses that there are certain common themes, images and ideas that 'speak' to the unconscious.
Jung spoke about the 'collective unconscious' and archetypes, which feeds directly into this kind of analysis.
So here's , The Castle Visualisation...
Imagine that you are in front of a castle.
The scenario then unfolds through the questions that follow.
Take paper and pencil, note the responses and learn more about your character, through this imaginary walk in the castle.
1. You are in front of the door of the castle. How exactly do you imagine it?
It is a simple door
It is covered by plants and is somewhat hard to find
It is a huge wooden door with metal details and it looks a little frightening
2. You pass the door of the castle what is the first thing you see?
A huge library, wall to wall full of books
A huge fireplace and a hot fire burning
A large banquet hall with huge chandeliers and red carpets
A long corridor with many closed doors
3. You look around and find a staircase. You decide to climb the stairs. What does the staircase look like?
It looks sharp and massive like not leading anywhere
It is an impressive spiral, grand staircase
4. After you climb the stairs, you reach a small room in which there is only one window. How big is it?
It is a normal window
It’s too small, almost skylight
The window is huge, so that it takes almost the entire surface of the wall
5. You look out the window. What do you see?
Large waves crashing furiously on rocks
A snowy forest
A green valley
A small, vibrant city
6. You go down the stairs and you’re back in the area where you were when you first entered the castle. You go ahead and find a door at the rear of the building. You open it and go out in a yard. What exactly does it look like?
It is full of plants, grasses, broken wood and fallen barbed wire
It is impeccably maintained with countless colorful flowers
It’s a little jungle, but you can imagine how beautiful it would be if someone cleaned and put it in order.
The door represents your attitude to new experiences. If you imagined a simple, everyday door, you probably are not afraid of any new challenge and will test your luck in new things and situations without a second thought.
If you have chosen the hidden door, you probably do not know what you need to do in the future and your life in it, and it looks blurry and undefined.
Of course, if you have chosen a big, scary door, then you probably are afraid of the unknown and find it difficult to get out of your comfort zone and try new experiences.
The space inside the castle is the idea that you believe others to have of you. If for example you saw a library, you probably think that you are the person who supports others and helps them find answers to their problems.
A large fireplace gives a feeling of warmth and passion that you think you cause in people.
A fancy ballroom suggests that you feel that you can dazzle people around you and that you have a lot to give.
If you ended up in a long corridor with closed doors, you feel that you are difficult to understand and others will have to try much to ‘penetrate’ more within you.
The stairway shows the image that you have of life. The sharp and massive staircase shows a person who sees life as suffering, with many difficulties. Unlike the beautiful spiral staircase which shows how romantic a person is.
The window is the way you feel right now. A small window means that you feel depressed and trapped in your life. It may feel like there’s no way out of what you are experiencing in this period.
A normal window shows a person with realistic demands and expectations of life at this stage. You realize that there are limitations, but the future is here and it looks clear for you.
Conversely, if the window is gigantic, you probably feel invincible, free and able to achieve what you want.
The View from the Window
The view from the window is the overview of your whole life! A stormy sea shows a hectic and erratic life, while a snowy forest is associated with a person who lived isolated and detached from the crowds.
A green valley suggests that your life is calm and steady, without much stress and anxiety. Finally, the vibrant city is related to someone who generally lives full life socialising with lots of people.
The Courtyard of the Castle
The image of the courtyard is the image that you have in mind of your future!
So if your garden is neat and shiny, then you feel that your future will be heavenly.
On the other, a picture of a promising but neglected garden shows an optimistic person, who is worried if he can find the energy to take control of his life and make his future more beautiful.
Those who chose the grassy, damaged garden are pessimistic that do not have a nice picture of the future.
As with all of these kinds of 'tests' use them for personal reflection and not for any form of diagnosis.
Dr Alan B Jones
Director Inspire NLP
Coach, Trainer, Author