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It might have been...
Several years ago I was handed a suitcase of old papers by the widow of a well known local magician, the hope was that I could find something to share with the magical community so as to "leave something" to remember him by.
Among the tattered and sepia papers in the case were ideas of routines, comedic sketches and magical effects. These were shared with members of the local magic community in a special publication.
Within the pages of one of the note books I found the following poem...
Of all the sad, sad words that pass men’s lips,
The saddest of them all is these — “It might have been”
It might have been — It might have been
Four little words, yet what do they mean?
They tell us of misery, ruin and loss,
Of the fortune that’s gone on the turn or the toss
Of a card or a coin
They tell of the dear ones gone pass recall
A memory now though she once was his all.
It might have been.
Of shame and repentance and who knows but you
In the depths your heart holds memories too…
Memories, memories, shattered cracked dreams
Things that once had been secure in your grasp.
Now well, they might have been
They pass ever before us in ghastly array,
Their skeleton chains rattle by day,
And worse in the night they come back to torment us,
To mock and to say,
“We’re the ghosts of your promises your hopes and your dreams
We’re the things that you worked for,
Your plans and your schemes.
We’re far away from you
There’s a gulf in between,
We’re gone now for ever,
But once might have been”.
I came across an article about Bronnie Ware – an Australian nurse and counsellor – worked in palliative care; taking care of terminally ill people, most of whom had less than 12 weeks to live. And a lot of her work involved providing counselling and relief from the physical and mental stresses that come naturally when a human being comes face to face with their mortality. During her conversations she would talk about regrets and might have been's...
It is from the lips of the dying then, that the living can take advice for here are the top five regrets reported by Bronnie Ware:
1) I wish I pursued my dreams and aspirations, and not the life others expected of me
The lesson - if you know what really makes you happy, do it!
2) I wish I didn’t work so hard
The lesson - simplifying your lifestyle; making better choices, so you may not need all that money you're chasing
3) I wish I had the courage to express my feelings and speak my mind
The lesson - speak your mind, express your true feelings so reduce the build up stores of bitterness that cause distress
4) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
The lesson - stay connected, really connected
5) I wish I had let myself be happier
The lesson - happiness is, perhaps a choice.? Work towards letting go of past hurts, pains and negativity whilst be empowered by pasts successes, loves and joys. We can't change our pasts, but we can change the way we react to it.
Every now and then, you may ponder the complexities and maybe even some chaos in your life.
You might struggle to figure out what's next.
Maybe you feel confused at times about which way to go.
Have you thought about setting your life priorities to make your life easier?
When you're struggling to determine what's important to you, it's hard to make decisions.
What will you do next?
Where will you go for the evening?
Who will you choose to pass the time with?
Feeling torn between two or more people, places and things is common if you haven't yet identified your priorities. After all, when you consider everything and everyone in your life as all-equal in terms of their "level" of importance, it's going to be tough to choose what to do next.
Setting your life priorities is a way of identifying what's most important to you. Once you determine your priorities, you'll be pleased with the ease of making decisions and the serenity that comes with knowing you did the right thing.
Establishing priorities also gives you a clearer focus on how to allot your time. If you allot the bulk of your time to doing what's most important with the most important people in your life, you'll feel more fulfilled and satisfied with your life experiences.
Common Life Priorities
What might your priorities be?
The possibilities are endless. In the list below, you'll find many common priorities in no particular order.
Feel free to use the list as inspiration to help you figure out your own priorities.
* Extended family
* Personal appearance
* Health and physical exercise/activities
* Nutritious eating
* "Alone-time" with partner
* Quality time with the children
* Playing games on the internet
* Talking on the phone
* Watching television
Example of a "Prioritized" Listing of Life Priorities
The whole idea of setting priorities is to put the many elements of your life into an order, with those that are most important to you at the top.
Knowing your highest priority on the list is necessary in order to make focused, wise decisions that are right for you.
Consider this next list, which is prioritized, as an example of someone's life priorities (in order).
2. Alone-time with partner
4. Health and physical exercise
5. Nutritious eating
7. Watching television
8. Personal appearance
9. Hobbies - movies and reading
Coming Up With Your Own Priorities
Setting your priorities in life may take time and effort. However, taking the time to reflect on your day-to-day life and determine what's on the top of your list will make your life so much easier. Once your priorities are clear to you, decisions on how to spend your time and with who will be a cinch.
Engaging in this exercise of figuring out your priorities might reveal some things that shock or surprise you.
For example, you might realize that you're spending most of your time hanging out with friends even though you feel that your family is more important. Or you aren't taking as much care with your kids as you thought you were.
Regardless of what you discover that you weren't expecting, setting your priorities now will help you limit or even remove the less-important elements of your life and enable you to focus more fully on what means the most to you.
You can live more joyfully by setting your life priorities.
Knowing what's important to you and devoting your time to those things at the top of your list will ensure you experience an enriched and fulfilled life.
Set your life priorities today.
This coming Saturday is White Ribbon Day
The White Ribbon CampaignUK is part of a global movement to put a stop to male violence against women and girls.
This is very much a MANS issue, and it is women who are disempowered, harassed and abused by the behaviours of men.
The White Ribbon UK website notes that ...
Men and boys have a crucial role to play in creating a culture where male violence, abuse and harassment against women and girls are simply seen as unacceptable. We support them to take a stand against gender violence in their workplaces, schools, communities and families.
The 25th November, the world marks International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women, also known as White Ribbon Day. From then until the 10th December, we encourage everybody to take part in the 16 Days of Activism against gender-based violence.
Most men are not violent towards women, but many of us ignore the problem, or see it as something which doesn't have anything to do with us. We need to join women and women's organisations in taking action to end the problem.
You can take a stand against violence now and sign our personal pledge never to commit, condone or remain silent about men's violence against women by visiting the White Ribbon Campaign Website
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Dr Alan B Jones
Director Inspire NLP
Coach, Trainer, Author